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Needs Vs. Wants: How to be Open to God’s Plan for Your Life

Needs Vs. Wants: How to be Open to God’s Plan for Your Life

Julie Winchester, Kate Motaung2026-03-21T05:15:12+00:00March 23rd, 2026|Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development, Spiritual Development|

Being open to God’s plan means recognizing the difference between needs and wants. Wants are desires we believe are critical but are not actually essential, like a new car, a bigger house, or a new job. Needs, however, are essential for living, such as food, water, and shelter. Clarifying these helps us follow God’s direction. At times, it is difficult to distinguish between needs and wants. We shift our wants into the need category, believing that we deserve them or that they are necessary to make our lives better and more fulfilled. If you put too many things in your need category, you will end up frustrated with life, hurt by others, and doubting God’s goodness. – Paul David Tripp, New Morning Mercies: A Daily Gospel Devotional Believing in God’s goodness and provision leads to contentment. When we are content, we trust Christ, accept our circumstances, and are less driven by a desire for more. Do not love this world nor the things it offers you, for when you love the world, you do not have the love of the Father in you. For the world offers only a craving for physical pleasure, a craving for everything we see, and pride in our achievements and possessions. These are not from the Father, but are from this world. And this world is fading away, along with everything that people crave. But anyone who does what pleases God will live forever. – 1 John 2:15-17, NLT John’s words provide an example of what we should strive for in life. Depending on and looking to God for fulfillment and direction in differentiating needs and wants is challenging. But doing so will lead to contentment, and to achieve contentment, there are three areas to consider: making comparisons, trusting God, and gratitude. Making Comparisons In this digital [...]

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Spiritual Development: Living Your Created Purpose

Spiritual Development: Living Your Created Purpose

Julie Winchester, Kate Motaung2026-03-20T06:12:38+00:00March 20th, 2026|Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development, Spiritual Development, Women’s Issues|

Are you feeling disconnected or distant from God? Unmotivated to pursue Him? Unworthy to receive Him? Feeling stuck in life circumstances? Do you ask, “Who am I? What is my role in this world?” To discover the answer to these questions, you must understand your purpose. As a Christian, your purpose aligns with God’s Word. Pursuing to become Christlike and aligning with God’s will for your life. Galatians 5:22-23 describes the qualities we should strive for: “But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!” (NLT). These are the qualities our Lord and Savior modeled for us. Jesus was fully human and demonstrated all these characteristics. Through the power of the Holy Spirit, we, too, can develop these qualities and become more like Him. How do we use these qualities to become the person God created us to be? By being mindful and responsible for our actions, for how we live, and for how we treat others. Take your eyes off yourself and focus on others’ needs. Consider other perspectives by practicing humility and empathy. You learn your purpose through growth and spiritual development by remaining mindful of the fruit of the Spirit. This happens through a process called sanctification, a lifelong commitment to obeying God, acknowledging sin, and being willing to change. Through sanctification, you are transformed as you put off your old self and put on the new, being filled with the Holy Spirit. Spiritual development brings you closer to God through prayer, fellowship, learning God’s Word, and applying faith to daily life. This leads you to a deeper understanding of God and His ways, resulting in spiritual maturity and clarity of purpose. Prayer Prayer is communing [...]

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Are You a Perfectionist? Understanding the Effects of Perfectionism and How to Change It

Are You a Perfectionist? Understanding the Effects of Perfectionism and How to Change It

Jana Tatum, Kate Motaung2026-01-29T07:08:00+00:00January 29th, 2026|Coaching, Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development|

There is an age-old phrase that says, “Practice makes perfect.” This refers to the idea that the more you practice and work at something, the better you get at it. But will we ever be “perfect” at it? Even experts in any field are never perfect at something. They will never know all the answers or perform flawlessly, even when they excel and are at the top of the class. There is a more recent phrase that states, “Practice makes progress.” This implies that as we do something more frequently and work at it, we will get better, but it does not have an emphasis on perfection. Has anyone ever told you that you are a perfectionist? Or “Don’t be a perfectionist?” Maybe you don’t leave the office until the project or task is “perfect.” Perhaps you spend hours perfecting a presentation, only to feel it’s still not good enough. Maybe your son or daughter gets upset with anything lower than a 100 on a test or assignment. Perhaps you stay up late, not because you are a night owl, but because you want everything to be “just right” before you go to bed. Meriam-Webster defines “perfectionism” as “a disposition to regard anything short of perfection as unacceptable.” Wanting to do things well and being a perfectionist are two different things. The tricky thing about the term “perfect” is that people have different standards for what is “perfect.” I can look at a drawing and say, “Wow, that’s great!” While the artist might say, “Well, I need to work on it some more.” Someone may compliment your hair, but after spending an hour fighting with it this morning to get it “right,” you still don’t feel it’s as good as it could be. According to Verywell.com The three types of [...]

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Making God-Honoring Decisions

Making God-Honoring Decisions

Jana Tatum, Kate Motaung2025-10-24T05:48:41+00:00October 24th, 2025|Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development, Spiritual Development|

We make decisions every day, even every minute, without realizing it. We make decisions about what to wear, what route to take to work, what to cook for supper, when to do household chores, and how to do them, to name a few. These types of decisions are viewed as trivial, and the fear of making the wrong one is typically low. These decisions can easily be changed, and there are several right ways to do them. Some decisions in life are more permanent and less likely to be easily or frequently changed. Fear and Anxiety and God-Honoring Decisions Fear and anxiety in decision-making can be debilitating. Some will date the same person for years for fear that if they get married, it will be to the wrong person, or for fear of it ending in divorce. Some will struggle in a job and not apply for a new job for fear of it being the wrong job, the wrong company, or not enough pay or stability. Anxiety is the fear of the unknown. We will continue in something that is not best for the sole reason of it being the known. Remind yourself that the unknown becomes the known relatively quickly. When you start a new job, it is the unknown, and after you have been there for a few days or months, it becomes more and more known. We want to make the right decision and want it to be so clear that we can’t make a mistake. A billboard or writing in the sky would be nice and clear, but where would our faith be if that were how God communicated to us about His will and direction in our lives? Decision-making takes multiple parts of the brain. The brain is a meticulously designed machine that [...]

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Post-Surgery Mental Health: Caring for Yourself After an Operation

Post-Surgery Mental Health: Caring for Yourself After an Operation

Kate Motaung2025-01-08T07:03:16+00:00April 24th, 2024|Coaching, Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development|

As you reach your senior years the list of surgeries you might have starts to loom. Joint replacements, intestinal explorations, and possible emergency procedures can happen. Medical practice is a marvel. Many of these surgeries save lives or give the chance for a longer period of active living, but they can take a toll on your post-surgery mental health. There can be fear going into surgery, and loneliness during the recovery period. Some surgeries have a long recovery period, possibly keeping you immobile and confined to your home or short-term care facility. There may be time required with assistive devices such as wheelchairs and walkers. Even this short-term period of reliance on others can prove challenging. Caring for your mental health at this time will help your body heal as well. Physical comfort for post-surgery mental health If you are planning on surgery, you can plan for recovery as well. Arrange your space so that you can easily access things you need. Create a station for power cords to phones and tablets. Have remotes accessible. Make sure the path to the bathroom is cleared of obstacles and find out what you may need to safely take a shower or bath. Pain management is crucial to your post-surgery mental health. Be sure to talk with your doctor about the correct medication timing and dosage. Plan to have ice packs for swelling and a heating pad for other aches and pains. Whatever healing timeline you are given, believe it. Too many people end up hurting themselves by rushing into normal life too quickly. If the doctor says it takes 6 weeks, it takes 6 weeks. The internet makes taking care of practical needs quite simple. Grocery delivery or pickup can save you time, energy, and money. Get pre-made meals in the [...]

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Bettering Your Character with Spiritual Self-Improvement

Bettering Your Character with Spiritual Self-Improvement

Kate Motaung2025-01-08T07:06:05+00:00June 30th, 2023|Coaching, Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development, Spiritual Development|

You are typically known by your character and reputation. When people speak of you or your reputation, what do they say? Are you someone they can trust? Are you reliable? Do you stand up for those who have no voice when you see injustice? These character traits influence not only how the world sees us but how we see ourselves. When you align your character with Christ, you will see a natural boost in your confidence and self-esteem. Following God leads to self-improvement. Character matters in self-improvement. Being righteous and honest extends into every area of your life. When you are honest, upstanding, loyal, compassionate, kind, and loving behind closed doors in your personal life, you are more likely to exhibit these traits to the public. Although some people lead a different life in private, God knows the heart and sees everything. God wants you to display His traits all the time. To accomplish this, you must grow into a godly character. Tips for building your character. Have you ever known someone who could not be trusted? Maybe this person believed they were outside of the rules. They may have cheated on their spouse, demanded too much from their employees, or broken the law. They acted impulsively and, sometimes, violently. You could not believe anything this person said, and there seemed to be a motive behind every one of their actions. If they did something good for someone, they wanted something in return. This example shows that we are not born with good character. Childhood experiences and perceptions can take us down another path. However, we have the power through Christ to reorient ourselves. This is where spiritual self-improvement becomes a conscious choice. Face your trials and challenges. Trials and challenges, as unwelcome as they may appear, can build [...]

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The Benefits Of Journal Writing

The Benefits Of Journal Writing

Mansfield Christian Counseling2023-05-29T18:30:19+00:00May 27th, 2023|Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development|

In a world that is busy, fast-paced, and constantly in need of our attention it is hard to find time to catch up with ourselves. It is easy to see one day turn into weeks, into months, and even years before we take time to catch up with who we are, whom we are becoming, and what direction we hope to take. This is where journal writing comes in. It may start to feel like our lives are on autopilot, one day rolling into the next without much thought. A way to stop all that and refocus is journaling. Journaling is the intentional process of putting thoughts, feelings, and experiences onto paper. Why do people journal? Journaling has many benefits since it awards us the opportunity to examine how we are living and take note of areas that need improvement or areas to celebrate. In the therapeutic world, journaling has been seen to promote healthy living in that it helps reduce stress and anxiety thereby boosting well-being. Below are some benefits of Journal writing: Mindfulness. Journal writing creates order and seeks clarity in a world that often feels chaotic. By setting aside time, and looking for a quiet and secluded space, one gets to be mindful and calm for the duration of the exercise. This is beneficial in that you allow yourself to stop, stop the busyness and all the fuss, and just focus. Emotional catharsis. When we are overwhelmed by emotions, journaling can provide the space for us to vent, examine and understand our emotions. It can be a purging of sorts where there is no judgment or expectations. This processing of hard emotions gives room for emotional processing and regulation. Self-discovery. There is no personal growth that ever happened without first examining who we are in our present [...]

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How to Control Anger in the Bible: 10 Verses to Help You Cope

How to Control Anger in the Bible: 10 Verses to Help You Cope

Kate Motaung2025-01-08T07:06:38+00:00April 28th, 2023|Anger Issues, Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development, Spiritual Development|

Managing and controlling your anger is not easy, particularly under stressful conditions. It’s an emotion that can be used for good or evil. It has to be dealt with in an appropriate manner, that is the manner in which we see anger in the Bible dealt with. Don’t keep it bottled up inside, as it will become destructive to your health. Anger in the Bible The Bible does not forbid anger, but it does forbid sinning in anger (Ephesians 4:26 NIV). Being able to restrain your anger is a spiritual discipline that keeps it within limits, and dissipates the intensity of emotion you might be feeling about something rather than firing it up even more. The fact that the Bible contains numerous references on how to control anger shows that it is an issue common to everyone. It is only through meditation on Scripture and the power of the Holy Spirit that any true victory can be experienced. Here are 10 verses to provide wisdom and encouragement as you learn to control anger. A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly. – Proverbs 14:29, NIV We see here the contrasting of the negative and the positive which is shown in the first ten verses of the chapter. Solomon is illustrating the difference between the wise and the foolish person. How to control anger shown here in the Bible is a sign of maturity, and with this act comes understanding. You can then assess a situation carefully and react accordingly without wrath. Anger is foolish and will lead to people avoiding you. Don’t react to others in anger. Turn to prayer and God’s Word instead. A violent man entices his neighbor and leads him down a path that is not good. – Proverbs 16:29, NIV Solomon [...]

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Ways to Improve Mental Health at Home

Ways to Improve Mental Health at Home

Kate Motaung2025-01-08T07:07:08+00:00February 9th, 2023|Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development|

Your mental health is imperative to your overall health. Poor mental health can lead to physical symptoms and behaviors resulting in illnesses and diseases. Depression, anxiety, and impulsiveness can bring about self-harm, risky behaviors, and suicidal thoughts. But you can find ways to improve mental health at home. A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. – Proverbs 17:22, NIV Protecting and nurturing your mental health can improve your outlook and mood and help you think clearly. Keeping ways to improve mental health in your arsenal will make it easier to navigate life’s challenges and rise to the top. Ways to improve mental health at home You need a list of ways to improve mental health. Once you begin practicing these suggestions at home, you will find them helpful to carry over in other areas of your life, such as your career and other relationships. In addition, developing resilience will make it easier for you to function during crises and to heal from loss and disappointment. Choose a few ways to improve mental health and challenge yourself to implement one for a week or a month. Give yourself plenty of time to change your habits and mindset, and don’t forget to exercise grace when you get off track. If your new practice derails, pick yourself back up and try again. The only way you will stop improving is if you stop. Avoid vices. Vices are those behaviors and addictions that negatively affect physical health. Smoking, vaping, drinking excessive amounts of alcohol, and using drugs will lead to addiction, emotional and mental issues, and possible conditions that will result in death. Many of these vices alter brain circuitry and affect the central nervous system. You become a slave to these substances, and they can [...]

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