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How Trauma Can Affect a Child and the Benefits of Therapy for Children

2024-10-23T12:49:17+00:00April 30th, 2024|Christian Counseling for Children, Featured, Individual Counseling, Trauma|

Whether the result of abuse, neglect, the sudden loss of a loved one, becoming homeless, a natural disaster, or witnessing or experiencing a frightening, violent, or life-threatening event, childhood trauma can have a lasting impact that lasts a lifetime. In this article, we will look at some of the many benefits of trauma therapy for children. Childhood trauma affects the child’s sense of safety and trust, and left untreated, can lead to mental health disorders such as anxiety, depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), as well as physical problems such as heart disease or diabetes. Childhood trauma therapy is a specialized form of counseling that provides children with a safe, supportive environment in which they can share what they have experienced, as well as process and come to understand their feelings and have them validated as real and important. It uses talk, play, and creative activities specifically designed to promote healing from the impact of the trauma, resilience, teach the child new, more helpful ways of thinking and feeling about the traumatic event, and equip him or her with healthy coping skills that enable them to deal with triggers and challenging situations. Common symptoms of childhood trauma Separation anxiety. Clinginess. Trouble sleeping. Nightmares. Loss of appetite. Avoiding things that are reminders of the traumatic event. Acting out. Angry outbursts. Frequent crying. Hypervigilance. Withdrawing from friends. Loss of interest in social activities. Erratic behavior. Trouble concentrating. Self-harming behaviors. Most effective types of therapy for children Trauma-focused cognitive behavioral therapy (TF-CBT) Trauma-focused cognitive behavioral therapy is an evidence-based form of cognitive behavioral therapy that specifically addresses trauma and the child’s ensuing emotional struggles resulting from his or her memory of the traumatic event. TF-CBT also involves the participation of trusted family members and/or caregivers, by teaching them how to actively listen [...]

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Post-Surgery Mental Health: Caring for Yourself After an Operation

2024-10-23T12:51:09+00:00April 24th, 2024|Coaching, Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development|

As you reach your senior years the list of surgeries you might have starts to loom. Joint replacements, intestinal explorations, and possible emergency procedures can happen. Medical practice is a marvel. Many of these surgeries save lives or give the chance for a longer period of active living, but they can take a toll on your post-surgery mental health. There can be fear going into surgery, and loneliness during the recovery period. Some surgeries have a long recovery period, possibly keeping you immobile and confined to your home or short-term care facility. There may be time required with assistive devices such as wheelchairs and walkers. Even this short-term period of reliance on others can prove challenging. Caring for your mental health at this time will help your body heal as well. Physical comfort for post-surgery mental health If you are planning on surgery, you can plan for recovery as well. Arrange your space so that you can easily access things you need. Create a station for power cords to phones and tablets. Have remotes accessible. Make sure the path to the bathroom is cleared of obstacles and find out what you may need to safely take a shower or bath. Pain management is crucial to your post-surgery mental health. Be sure to talk with your doctor about the correct medication timing and dosage. Plan to have ice packs for swelling and a heating pad for other aches and pains. Whatever healing timeline you are given, believe it. Too many people end up hurting themselves by rushing into normal life too quickly. If the doctor says it takes 6 weeks, it takes 6 weeks. The internet makes taking care of practical needs quite simple. Grocery delivery or pickup can save you time, energy, and money. Get pre-made meals in the [...]

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When Christian Divorce is Inevitable

2024-10-23T12:51:16+00:00April 12th, 2024|Couples Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Issues|

Divorce may feel as though your world has been shattered and your life has come to an abrupt halt. It can affect your sense of self-worth and identity. Divorce, especially for a believer, is often considered more painful than losing a spouse to death. What does the Bible say about it? There is only one written law about divorce in the Bible. It was given to the Israelites by Moses to protect the women of that day. It protected them from being arbitrarily discarded by their husbands and left destitute without any means of support, and from the shame of social stigma that went with divorce. This law allowed a man to write his wife a certificate of divorce if she did not please him, leaving her free to marry another man (Deuteronomy 24:1-2). He could not just send her away without it. In the New Testament, when the Pharisees tried to trap Jesus into providing a black-and-white answer as to where He stood on this Old Testament law regarding divorce, Jesus told them that it was never what God intended. “Haven’t you read,” He replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” – Matthew 19:4-6, NIV When they further pressed Him as to why then Moses commanded that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce, Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. – Matthew 19:4-8, NIV Biblical grounds for a Christian [...]

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Helpful Bible Verses about Love and Marriage

2024-10-23T12:51:37+00:00August 25th, 2023|Couples Counseling, Featured, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Issues|

Love and marriage are many things – complicated, beautiful, hard, and joyful. Each marriage is a world unto itself, and the couple in that relationship are shaped profoundly by it for the rest of their lives. There is no doubt that when God gave marriage to humanity as a gift, it was a good gift intended for our good. However, we would be naïve if we didn’t recognize that our lives beyond Eden makemarriage a complicated gift that takes deft hands to handle. In a sense, a healthy and successful marriage can be boiled down to a few things. Mignon McLaughlin once stated, “A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.” Falling in love must often be deliberate because many things conspire against enjoying one’s spouse and continuing to delight in them. We can find many pointers in the Bible about marriage and how best to handle this gift. Bible Verses about Love and Marriage How do you feel about yourself? We often have complicated relationships with our bodies, but a healthy relationship with ourselves will often entail taking care of our bodies, appreciating what our bodies can do, and avoiding unhealthy comparisons between our bodies and those of others. That idea can help couples consider an important aspect of what the Bible says about married life. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one [...]

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Important Signs of Early Onset Dementia to Look Out For

2024-10-23T12:51:47+00:00August 3rd, 2023|Aging and Geriatric Issues, Family Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling|

One unfortunate but inevitable fact of our existence is that our bodies deteriorate over time. Getting older reflects in our bodies, and wear and tear occur at every stage of our lives. People don’t all age the same way, whether physically or mentally, and it’s important to keep a close handle on your health so that any interventions for early onset dementia are made early and at their most effective. What is dementia? Dementia is not a specific disease, but it names a cluster of symptoms that affect a person’s memory, thinking, speaking, and social abilities severely enough to interfere with them enjoying and living out their daily life. Damage to or loss of nerve cells and their connections in the brain is the typical root cause of dementia. Several diseases can cause dementia, and Alzheimer’s disease is the most common cause of progressive dementia in older adults. While Alzheimer’s typically affects older adults, it can also affect people in their thirties or forties. Dementia affects people differently and causes different symptoms depending on the region of the brain that’s affected. Some dementias are progressive, meaning that they are not reversible. Alzheimer’s disease is one of these, along with Lewy body dementia and vascular dementia. Other types of dementia, such as that caused by nutritional deficiencies, or as a side effect of medications, can be reversed with treatment. You must see a medical professional as soon as possible for an assessment and proper diagnosis if you encounter the symptoms of dementia. Signs of early onset dementia The early signs of dementia may vary between individuals as well as depending on the cause and type of dementia one is suffering, but there are some common early symptoms, and these include the following: Having difficulty with your visual and spatial abilities, [...]

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Blessing of Belonging: Navigating Chemical Dependency and Connection with God

2024-10-23T12:51:55+00:00July 5th, 2023|Chemical Dependency, Featured, Individual Counseling, Men’s Issues|

Every human has been created with the innate desire to be seen and known, but invisibility often seems easier in light of our unique challenges with the sin and weights that have burdened us. We retreat, hiding parts of ourselves, our history, and the testimony that the Lord is building within. Being a maverick or a loner doesn’t demand the engagement and intimacy that comes through a raw relationship, but rather intensifies isolation and separates us from the help and strength that multiplies in healthy relationships. While we might want to shield ourselves from vulnerability, God created us for community with Him and each other. Regardless of our struggle, whether dependence on a chemical substance or another form of addiction, the benefit of being known also comes with risk. In the space where we want to connect, transparency makes us vulnerable. That doesn’t mean that we run from community, however. We have to allow for authenticity that invites meaningful connection and forges a foundation for life-giving relationships. Jesus is the head of one Church, one Body; we are the many parts who receive grace to grow, as we learn and live together (1 Corinthians 12:12, 27). It’s through the working of the Spirit that our lives teach and testify to one another, and ultimately, the world, of the Father’s goodness. Prodigals and pigpens and chemical dependency We may have wandered as prodigals into the pigpens where chemical dependency produced behaviors we never thought we’d see in ourselves. Yet, we don’t have to rehearse these stories. We can trade the shame for the enduring testimony and the robe of righteousness, ring of authority, and shoes of peace that our Father wants to give us. No drug or high can deeply satisfy our innate needs of being seen, known, and loved. Instead, [...]

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Bettering Your Character with Spiritual Self-Improvement

2024-10-23T12:54:35+00:00June 30th, 2023|Coaching, Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development, Spiritual Development|

You are typically known by your character and reputation. When people speak of you or your reputation, what do they say? Are you someone they can trust? Are you reliable? Do you stand up for those who have no voice when you see injustice? These character traits influence not only how the world sees us but how we see ourselves. When you align your character with Christ, you will see a natural boost in your confidence and self-esteem. Following God leads to self-improvement. Character matters in self-improvement. Being righteous and honest extends into every area of your life. When you are honest, upstanding, loyal, compassionate, kind, and loving behind closed doors in your personal life, you are more likely to exhibit these traits to the public. Although some people lead a different life in private, God knows the heart and sees everything. God wants you to display His traits all the time. To accomplish this, you must grow into a godly character. Tips for building your character. Have you ever known someone who could not be trusted? Maybe this person believed they were outside of the rules. They may have cheated on their spouse, demanded too much from their employees, or broken the law. They acted impulsively and, sometimes, violently. You could not believe anything this person said, and there seemed to be a motive behind every one of their actions. If they did something good for someone, they wanted something in return. This example shows that we are not born with good character. Childhood experiences and perceptions can take us down another path. However, we have the power through Christ to reorient ourselves. This is where spiritual self-improvement becomes a conscious choice. Face your trials and challenges. Trials and challenges, as unwelcome as they may appear, can build [...]

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How to Control Anger in the Bible: 10 Verses to Help You Cope

2024-10-23T12:54:59+00:00April 28th, 2023|Anger Issues, Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development, Spiritual Development|

Managing and controlling your anger is not easy, particularly under stressful conditions. It’s an emotion that can be used for good or evil. It has to be dealt with in an appropriate manner, that is the manner in which we see anger in the Bible dealt with. Don’t keep it bottled up inside, as it will become destructive to your health. Anger in the Bible The Bible does not forbid anger, but it does forbid sinning in anger (Ephesians 4:26 NIV). Being able to restrain your anger is a spiritual discipline that keeps it within limits, and dissipates the intensity of emotion you might be feeling about something rather than firing it up even more. The fact that the Bible contains numerous references on how to control anger shows that it is an issue common to everyone. It is only through meditation on Scripture and the power of the Holy Spirit that any true victory can be experienced. Here are 10 verses to provide wisdom and encouragement as you learn to control anger. A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly. – Proverbs 14:29, NIV We see here the contrasting of the negative and the positive which is shown in the first ten verses of the chapter. Solomon is illustrating the difference between the wise and the foolish person. How to control anger shown here in the Bible is a sign of maturity, and with this act comes understanding. You can then assess a situation carefully and react accordingly without wrath. Anger is foolish and will lead to people avoiding you. Don’t react to others in anger. Turn to prayer and God’s Word instead. A violent man entices his neighbor and leads him down a path that is not good. – Proverbs 16:29, NIV Solomon [...]

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Ways to Improve Mental Health at Home

2024-10-23T12:55:22+00:00February 9th, 2023|Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development|

Your mental health is imperative to your overall health. Poor mental health can lead to physical symptoms and behaviors resulting in illnesses and diseases. Depression, anxiety, and impulsiveness can bring about self-harm, risky behaviors, and suicidal thoughts. But you can find ways to improve mental health at home. A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. – Proverbs 17:22, NIV Protecting and nurturing your mental health can improve your outlook and mood and help you think clearly. Keeping ways to improve mental health in your arsenal will make it easier to navigate life’s challenges and rise to the top. Ways to improve mental health at home You need a list of ways to improve mental health. Once you begin practicing these suggestions at home, you will find them helpful to carry over in other areas of your life, such as your career and other relationships. In addition, developing resilience will make it easier for you to function during crises and to heal from loss and disappointment. Choose a few ways to improve mental health and challenge yourself to implement one for a week or a month. Give yourself plenty of time to change your habits and mindset, and don’t forget to exercise grace when you get off track. If your new practice derails, pick yourself back up and try again. The only way you will stop improving is if you stop. Avoid vices. Vices are those behaviors and addictions that negatively affect physical health. Smoking, vaping, drinking excessive amounts of alcohol, and using drugs will lead to addiction, emotional and mental issues, and possible conditions that will result in death. Many of these vices alter brain circuitry and affect the central nervous system. You become a slave to these substances, and they can [...]

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